Daddy's Girl

Daddy’s Girl

I have always been a Daddy’s Girl and darn proud of it. You see I’m a lot like my Daddy.

16-25 years - A number of people can quote me when referencing men,“I don’t have time for boys who play games; I have a REAL man in my life: My Daddy! If you can’t do better than him you can keep it moving.”  I’ve lost count of how many guys I said that too. I’ve also lost count of how many times I turned down jewelry and gifts because “the only jewelry I wear is what my Daddy gives me. If you want me to wear yours start with a ring.” I didn’t date guys that I didn’t think I could introduce to Daddy. Even the “bad boys” (bad for me, lol) I brought home were Okayed (of course later I’d find out that as long as I liked them Daddy would).  I’d find myself saying my Daddy would never do that, when one of my guys would do something I considered unthinkable.  I had to realize there were a few unthinkable things I had done myself...  I’m a lot like my Daddy.

Let’s fast-forward to today, three years later, I am 28 and a lot has changed. I’ll start with what remains unchanged: I’m still a Daddy’s Girl (always will be and darn proud of it) and I still only wear gifts of jewelry from my Daddy. What’s changed: I’ve come to realize that My Daddy isn’t perfect and I can’t ignore that for the rest of my life and I can’t hold him on a proverbial pedestal while waiting for Mr. Right to knock him off.  I also will not fault my Dad for being “Daddy the human” instead of “Daddy the god.”

Back to seeing myself in my Daddy, I now keep a notebook of characteristics I see in my Dad that I don’t want in a husband. Surprisingly, I now recognize behavior and characteristics in my Mommy, as a Wife, that I need to emulate for my future husband.  Amazing what happens to viewpoints as we mature in life. It kind of flabbergasted me. Definitely not an “Ah Ha” moment I ever expected to have.  

Believe me when I say that’s some Tough Titty!!!

~Zahra Aprili~