I was in Atlanta a few months ago and spent some time with a dear friend. During a heart to heart conversation, she mentioned that she and her ex-fiance' had curfews. That statement actually threw me for a loop. remember this is a dear friend, so I did not hold my tongue, I asked questions;
"Why?", "For what purpose?", "Was there any distrust or insecurity?"
The reason I am writing about this is because I have heard it too many times for my comfort in the months since that conversation. A spouse imposing curfews on their grown significant other, for reasons that make me wonder if instead of a curfew, they may have simply needed to find another mate has me quite perplexed.
I usually do not concern myself with what is going on behind the closed doors of others, especially when it is not hurting anyone, including those involved. I guess when cities across the Country pass ordinances for curfews on teenagers; there are adults out there that secretly wish for a vote on an all-city/town ordinance, so they will not have to impose one on their spouses in the same way that parents prefer the city, town, or school to partent their teenagers (Hmmmm? ... A subject for another Day's post). Go figure?
I just wonder if the underlying issue that is being masked or insignificantly curbed by the curfew is ever addressed? If so, when the real issue ... cheating, insecurity, alcoholism, immaturity or irresponsibility is unveiled after the curfew fails it will be some TOUGH TITTY!!!!!
~A Marie
Yeah, Angela...I do believe that "a curfew" has no room for any relationship, let alone two adults. Because as you alluded to was the fact that there is something else going, i.e. 'lack of trust' or 'cheating' to name a few. Now, call it tomAto, tomato...but there should be a respectable time frame in which you come into the house, normally. I mean you can't keep coming in the house at 2 or 3 in the am...at that time you know what's the only thing open..."legs and 7-11's" LOL. Once in a while is cool, but if they repeatedly do that...then I feel they have no respect for their significant other! For a man, that means No Titty (pun intended)Lol
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