Independent Woman?

I am a single, grown and ‘independent’ woman … or am I? I am definitely single and I am no doubt grown and I think we all share the same definition for single and grown. I have no significant other, no commitment to another and I take care of myself. So, yes, I am for sure single and grown. Now independent … What does that look like? What does it mean? Am I independent because I live alone, so I am not needy? I can and do take out my trash? I can and do clean my house? I can and do change my tires, oil and air filter? I can and do travel and plan my travel? I can and do pay my bills? Does that mean I do not welcome assistance or step back and allow a man to be a man? Absolutely not! I welcome, embrace, love and need masculine energy any day. I prefer it from a man that can appreciate my strength and yet understand how my oh-so feminine energy works for him and makes him better. After all, a strong man makes me better in all he IS and aspires to be. What do you do with a Kingdom when there is no King? Come on MEN … do not allow your beauty and strength as men to fall by the wayside simply because you see a woman taking care of herself. Trust me, she (at least I do) wants you to stand-up and be you with ALL of that masculinity and intellect you have and envelope her.  Just be careful of the woman you choose. Make sure she is the one that stands tall alone but with even greater height when she commits to you.

The definition of independent concerns me because recently I had a ‘friend’ say that I act like SHE-RA (female super hero) and as if I do not need the help of a man. How inaccurate was that statement? PLEASE? Do you really want a woman that cannot do anything? One who has no ambition, no drive, no organization, and no knowledge? If anything I would think a man would admire the fact that he will have a real partner, not a subordinate or dead weight. I guess my thought process is all wrong. That statement also clarified a lot about that friend. It showed me that he never took the time to evaluate my character.

On the flip side of this, I am tired of hearing women state how they do not need a man. How they can make their own money, raise their own children and maintain their own house. I am sick and tired of this … Really Women have we really lost sight of our true strength?!?!?! Men, I am going to speak for all of mankind … WE NEED YOU!!! We have lost the family structure because of the implication that men are not needed in the home. Whether you want a relationship or not, there is the need for masculine energy and strength just as there is the need for feminine energy and strength. It has never been an honor to our existence to belittle or devalue either.  Religion and government being interpreted by society has screwed many communities in this area from music to welfare.

One more thing … Yes, if we are not dating and we go out and kick-it together, I will share in the expense, sometimes that is (HA!), as I am not trying to have my friends go broke just because we are kicking-it. Heck, you are experiencing the same economy I am.  If I say I am treating you for your birthday, then I am really treating you. You do not have to lift a finger or spend a penny. You are a man and I am going to respect and treat you as such in my ‘independence’, I need you to do the same. A friendship and or a relationship is only as strong as the two involved are individually.

For the male that does not see the strength of a woman as an addition to his life … and to the women that do not celebrate real, grown and sexy men … TOUGH TITTY!

~AMarie